The Single Most Important Rule For Co-Parenting

Working with a co-parent can be hard. Especially when their priority is not the needs of the kids. In my book, A Practical Guide for Latter-day Saint Stepfamilies: Tools and Tips for Building a Happy and Successful Blended Family, I dive deep into how to navigate co-parenting relationships in a healthy way. You will find many strategies, ideas, and principles for supporting you in what may be the most difficult, complicated relationship of your life.

My intention in this article is not to go deep but to give you one overarching rule that will keep you focused. This rule will simplify every phone-call, drop-off, and exchange you have with the co-parent. This rule is found in the scriptures and given by the master himself:

Matthew 7:12

Therefore all things ^awhatsoever ye would that ^bmen should ^cdo to you, ^ddo ye even so to them.

In other words, treat them the way you wish they would treat you. Notice the Lord does not include any exceptions.

Imagine co-parent situations where this rule is applied. How does this rule influence outcomes?

For example:

The co-parent calls you upset and angry about a miscommunication.

The co-parent shows up ½ hour late for the kid exchange.

The co-parent would like extra time with the kids on your weekend.

The co-parent is struggling with an issue that you could help with.

I promise you that intentional application of this rule will bless your relationship with the co-parent and in turn bless your children and yourself.

Even if the co-parent chooses the lower road, you can live with a clear conscience and peace knowing that your precious children will learn from your example of love.

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